How Trying to "Heal" Keeps You Wounded

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How Trying to "Heal" Keeps You Wounded

Updated: Mar 6

Dearest Subscriber,

This month we have been exploring in detail the 3 steps to magnetize lovers with staying power, which were first introduced in a livestream event last month (if you missed it, you can catch it here

The first step was to reframe a negative story into a positive one, so you can make meaning of an experience for which you will never be able to know t he whole story. Our livestream addressing this topic was called, 5 Truths About Ghosting That Will Help You Move On, (you can check it out here

The second step is to recognize that the energy for success in business and other aspects of life, is not the same kind of energy that will bring you success in love. On this topic, we had a livestream event entitled: The Radical Truth About The Energy of Love vs The Energy of Success (you can check it out here: ).

In today’s livestream we explored the third step, which is to be in dialogue with your “self parts,” and recognize that there is no “A-to- B” equation.

This might sound strange, but I don’t define “success“ in love by whether or not you are married or in a long-term relationship. I describe it as being OK with being in process and being able to move with the ebbs and flows of life and relationships of all kinds, which is the same as being comfortable both in AND out of relationship, while retaining your integrity, self-sovereignty, and feeling on fiyah about life!.

Security is not defined by finding one partner and staying with them forever. Indeed, even married folks feel as though they are constantly evolving and changing. Life long commitment alone is not a solution to a problem of insecure attachment by any means, but rather another way of experiencing the essential premise of the issue.

Or, said another way, the goal is not to dock forever; It is to learn how to ride the waves with a sense of mastery.

I am reminded of a quote by John Steinbeck: “A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”

You are built to journey, my friend.

And if we are to accept this notion, it requires a reframing of how we conceive of “healing” and what kind of energetic momentum we have tied up in the idea.

It also requires activating the body through creative and experiential methods--which we demo in brief, in this video!

Don’t miss this last installment, I know you’ll love it!


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Briana MacWilliam ATR-BC, LCAT

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